Mindful Beauty: Open and Genuine Delight
The most beautiful woman is able to be pleased. In fact, I would venture to say, we are at our most beautiful when we are genuinely and joyfully satisfied, content, and at ease with ourselves and the world.
I was at a recent bridal shower and the bride-to-be had the ability to receive gifts from each guest with genuine delight and satisfaction. It was a fine-art produced within human form. She made eye contact with each giver, honored the gift with tactile attention–turning each over in her hands–genuinely oohing and awing, and then gave back to the giver a warm, pleased smile and a generous thank you.
I sat there wishing I had more to give her, simply because I loved her response! It was like making a pinball machine light up! I wish I had more quarters (or presents in this case), just to see her light up again-and-again! I, and every guest there, was able to succeed in making her happy. This was her gift to us: her open and genuine delight.
She is a woman who will give her husband one of the greatest gifts a bride can give:
…the ability to be well pleased.
It made me wonder:
How do I make God feel when I receive gifts from Him? Do I respond well? Do I respond openly, showing my pure delight, thankfulness, and gratefulness?
How do I respond to the loved ones when they give me gifts, compliments, or signs of affection?
What would the guests have felt like at the bridal shower, if the bride-to-be’s focus was only on the gifts and not the giver? How would they have felt if she received with the attitude that she never had “enough”? What if she didn’t show any thankfulness, what if she was humdrum in her receiving?
Questions I Ask Myself:
- Am I able to be pleased?
- Do I even know what I want?
- Am I able to describe that to someone else?
- How is someone else supposed to please me, when I don’t even know what would please me?
- In what small ways can I take care of and please myself, so I am not so needy before others?
- How can I create an environment within myself that I am already brimming over with “enough”, so when someone else does give to me (however small or large): their giving is also always “enough” as well?