Addressing the VOID

When something dies in your life:

a dream, a hope, a pregnancy, a marriage, a friendship, a job, a fortune, a promise…

Something is always born out of that loss, even if it is not immediately obvious.
At first there is sorrow and you hit the unavoidable VOID.

VOID is defined as: “completely empty” or “a completely empty space”


The Process of Mourning: An Active Process

Some do the VOID better than others. None of us are necessarily graceful in dealing with the VOID. (Pick healthy ways to address your VOID.) If you don’t deal with the VOID actively, it can turn to depression. Active may be prayer and waiting. These are subtly active activities, but they are moving things along even if it seems excruciatingly slow. We are putting our prayers into the proverbial crock pot and trusting that God is going to help us in the best possible way (sometimes, and most likely, in an unknown to-us kind of way).


And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

– Romans 8:28 NKJV


I remember, I started my graphic design business after my second miscarriage. I started playing the cello after my first. The body of the cello fit against my empty belly. It’s beautiful mourning matched my own.


Something new was taking place.
I was addressing the VOID.


Sometimes it hurts especially when that thing was “supposed” to last forever or “supposed” to happen. That’s when I am reminded, that only God’s love is constant and not able to be taken away. God joins us in the VOID if we ASK HIM – thank goodness:


Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

– Romans 8:37-39 NKJV